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1. Too big gifts
The most solemn rituals for ordering relatives will be held on about 15 to 20 days before marriage. The male family chooses a good day and brings gifts and a variety of gifts to the female home.
2, bed
chooses a good day, and a few days before the wedding, the new bed was moved to the appropriate position. Then, before the wedding, he was responsible for paving the bed by the good -looking mother, laying the mattresses, sheets, and dragons and phoenixes on the bed, and sprinkled with various kinds of fruits, such as red dates, longan, litchi, and red mung beans. After the bed, no one can enter the new house and touch the new bed until the newcomer enters the house on the night of marriage.
On the night of marriage, the newcomer can let the child eat the fruits on the bed after entering the new house, called "pressing the bed", which means that his hundred sons and thousands of grandsons. The groom's peers can make a new house. In ancient times, he believed that "the newcomers do not make trouble, the more noisy and more troubles," and can drive away the evil for the newcomer.
3, dowry
After receiving the gift, the makeup set of the female family must be delivered to the male home the day before marriage. The dowry of these large boxes is a symbol of the identity and wealth of the female family. Outside the precious jewelry of the dowry, it mainly symbolizes some signs.
Such as: scissors (butterfly double flying), sputter reinforcement (descendants), ruler (Liangtian Wanni), sliced sugar (sweet honey), coast belt (waist entanglement), vase (flowers blooming rich), copper basin and shoes (Tongji to the old), a dragon and phoenix quilt, a pair of bed sheets and pillows, two pairs of chopsticks and bowls (with clothing and food), 72 sets of clothes, and seventy -two clothes, use cypress, lotus seeds, longan (full food).
3, above
The men and women are on the eve of the wedding. This ceremony must be held by the "good life guys" and "good life wives" (the elders or relatives and friends of both men and women, and the parents and children are healthy, and the marriage is harmonious).
4, welcome
, accompanied by the string of stones, the groom brought the bride with a flower ball. After arriving at the female's house, the first level is to "get started." If you want to successfully get the beauty, you must go through a series of intelligence and physical fitness tests. If necessary, add songs, but the most important thing is the rich "opening the door", and the sisters will open the door after satisfaction.
5, the newcomer worships the world first, and then worship the ancestors.
The newcomers will worship the tea from the two relatives (if according to the old style, the newcomer should not be kneeling before he meets the male house. Want to kneel and kneel to show your mind). The bride prepares two profits, namely Weiwangjin and Manchitang, and handed them to the aunt after crossing the door.
Reference information Source: Baidu Encyclopedia-Marriage Etiquette
The relationship between husband and wife etiquette is an intimate family relationship and interpersonal relationship. Some people think that in the same roof or even the same room, the etiquette feels outside. In fact, the relationship between husband and wife is particularly prone to contradictions because of particularly intimacy, and the etiquette of husband and wife is exactly an indispensable lubricant in the relationship between husband and wife.
The China is the state of etiquette, and has been advocated by the etiquette of husband and wife since ancient times. In ancient times, there was "going to bed, and to get out of bed", and "the crime" was the story of the couple's etiquette chanted. There are also many examples of couples who adhere to the gift of husband and wife in modern times: "Goodbye" and "careful traffic safety" to their loveders at get off work, and said "hard" and "back" at work. The wife cooked the rice and fried dishes, and the husband said, "Don't be tight, just pay attention next time!" The wife took the child out and taught the child to say "goodbye to dad", or teach the child to kiss his father's face, Or teach your children to say goodbye to dad ... Although these etiquette behaviors are simple and easy to do, they usually play an important running effect on the relationship between husband and wife. The couple enjoyed the warmth and sweetness of love life from this series of etiquette behaviors, and made love life.
It some couples believe that the etiquette of husband and wife is superfluous, everything is casual, too lazy to speak politely, and be too lazy to do a etiquette. Some husbands and wives look at each other after getting home from get off work, without a greeting, and also talk about blame such as "Why don't you close the window at work". Some husbands call their wives as "yellow -faced wives" and "dirty dogs", and they do not know how to avoid these taboos that hurt their husbands and wives ... The contradiction between husband and wife is born of these trivial matters. These do not pay attention to the etiquette of husband and wife will cause great harm to the relationship between husband and wife.
Instructions, the couple's pair of "people in the family" is transformed from the "social person". Before getting married, the couple was classmates, colleagues, friends, or strangers. After marriage and marriage, they changed from "social people" to "family people". If you unfortunately break up, it will change from "family" to "social people". Since friends, classmates, colleagues, teachers and students talk about etiquette, the couple should also talk about etiquette. Pay attention to the etiquette of husband and wife is a measure of advocating civilized behavior in the family and eliminating uncivilized behavior. It is a civilized means to prevent couples from breaking up. It is not appropriate to think that only friends need to speak etiquette, and couples do not have to talk about etiquette.
In ancient China, the state of etiquette, so there were norms of etiquette everywhere. "The Analects of Confucius · Taibei Eighth" said: "Congratulations and rudeness, be cautious, but not polite, courage and rude, but rude." , "Li" can be righteous and educating the people, which is a major event in establishing Guoanbang. "Zuo Zhuan" Yiyun: "The gift can be for the country for a long time, and the heaven and the earth can be supported. Erites are the first, and some people have to talk about couples.
This "Cold Lu Miscellaneous · True Repent" cloud: "The world is based on the couple." The study of sincerity and sincerity, there is a diary, and you must do what you do. Every time you have a real book with his wife, you must have a script. Interest.
During the ancient husband and wife, the man must obtain the consent of the woman. Ming Feng Menglong's "Ancient and Modern Tan · Shipping Ministry · Wife" records: "Tang Xue Changxu and his wife will have courtesy, first ordered the maid to speak again and again, then the candle is made to build the room, talk about the elegance, or retreat. If you stay, please say: 'Changxu follows the couples, and I want to do one Jiajia. · The Rotten Flowing Ministry · Fangwang "contains:" One show newly married, go to bed at night, and ask the new woman: 'I want to Yun Yu, I wonder if the lady is respectful?' Newcomer said: 'Officials say what they want.' Shi said: 'Both of them are allowed, asking the lady to show their stocks, the students are rude and rude.' "Even if it is his wife, he will never overlook. The etiquette of husband and wife can make it easier for both parties to be pleasing to the eye and happiness.
Itly historical records, some people had to apologize to their wives in advance before some people, and asked for forgiveness: "In the past, there were fifty instructors in the former instructor. ...于床前，将新娘扶坐床上，举手扞其裤，分其两腿，高举之，详视其私，点头赞叹，于是退三步，恭对长揖者三，祝曰：不孝有三， Nothing is big, a certain old man, and today he is worthy of Mrs. Mrs., but to the lower body. "
The instructor and Xue Changxu and his wife are in the same way. In fact, it is not surprising. The interpretation of the marriage of the "Book of Rites" is that "the two surnames will be good, the temple is the temple, and the subsequent life will be followed." Some people always treat their stories as jokes, saying that they are false Taoism and hypocrisy. However, I think that in the feudal era of great masculinity, it is not easy to treat wives like this. It is worth learning from some husbands today, especially those husbands who simply treat their wives as fertility tools should learn these etiquette.
The husband and the child, the child and the child
Wedding weddings of ancient wedding weddings are considered the biggest etiquette in life. Compared with other customs, marriage etiquette is changing with the world. It reflects the degree of civilization at that time from a certain degree. There are many tedious procedures in the ancient marriage. Although this is so serious, it is not sloppy. The purpose is only two: one is to make the marriage confirm the society, the other is to clear the evil for the newlyweds and pray for happiness and happiness. Life. When some young people are married, in order to make their wedding different, some of them have begun to go to tradition. Here I will introduce the ancient wedding etiquette in my country for everyone as a reference. First, the media, "There is no rain in the sky, and there is no kiss on the ground." In the traditional marriage, both men and women must be concluded by the matchmaker. Merchants can take the initiative to take the initiative to make a bridge for both men and women. They can also be the beauty of adults. There is also a saying "Parents' Life, Mercy's Words", which is the truth. Second, the eight characters are very particular about the marriage of the ancients. If the male family wants to marry a daughter -in -law, first get the character of the woman from the woman's family, and then give it to the fortune teller to calculate and see that it is inconsistent with his son. If the female ordered Kaf or her son's eight characters, the two can not form an in -laws. You can also put the posts with the eight characters of women's birthday in the man's front and ancestor case of the man's family, Buji. Within three days, if there is nothing to be safe at home, both men and women can become a family. Regarding the zodiac, there are many vulgar rumors in the folk. The coincidence is: the green rabbit yellow dogs are ancient, the red horses and yellow sheep have long life, the black mouse yellow cows are prosperous, the green cattle and the black pig are happy, the dragon chicken is longer ... , Must be rich and so on. Those who do not fit are: white horses are afraid of green cows, sheep and rats are picked, snake tigers are frustrated, dragon rabbits are afraid of communication, golden chickens are afraid of jade dogs, pig monkeys are less than heads, etc. Third, the fixed and proposed, the hiring is also known as the small hire, which is equivalent to the current fixed wedding. When hiring, a large post must be used. There are also employment books outside the post, commonly known as marriage books. The letter of employment is generally prepared by the male family. All gifts before hiring have been set into gift lists. The male family has only one and a half of the gifts, commonly known as the first half of the gift. At the time of employment, you can also use the gold ring as a fixed -hire gift. On the day of the scheduled, both men and women had a banquet. The banquets were involved in their friends and relatives. 4. Gifts and gifts within about 20 or two months before marriage. The most important thing for gifts is gifts. Because the first half of the gift was available at the time of hiring, all of them were called the second half. Other gifts are listed in a gift list, caught in the ceremony. There must be cloth, satin, sarro, etc. on the gift list. These fabrics are sewn clothes for newlyweds. The woman's family also had to return some gifts, and brought it back to the gift book. After giving gifts, it is not too far from the marriage period. Fifth, on the day of welcoming the marriage, the male family firing played and welcomed the car. The matchmaker pilotted, followed by grooms, bridesmaids, sedan, bands, box teams, mighty and fishing. As soon as the flower sedan arrived, the female family sogon welcomed each other. After the team's team entered the female home house, the sedan landed, and the groom worshiped his father -in -law and mother -in -law. And after the guidance of the matchmaker, the bride's ancestor tablet and the elders had a gift, and the bridesmaids were holding the bride into the sedan. When you get on the sedan, the bride generally needs to "cry and marry" to express his attachment to his parents. If you marry your dear, you must take another way, and you can't go back. 6. On the day of the worship, the groom and bride held a ceremony. The two of them appeared in the identity of "Zanzan" and "Tongzan" respectively. The sectional consciousness procedure is as follows: Quoting: The groom stands in front of the sedan. Tongzan: Kai Sing, newcomer starts. Quoting: The groom bowed (invited the bride in his hands) to quote: The groom and the bride Naohuatang. Quoting: The groom and bride is in place. Tongzan: The groom and bride enters the incense. Quote: Kneel, offer incense. Tongzan: Kneeling, knocking on the head, then the first, three -headed head, and then the common three worship in TV series: one worship the world, two worship Gao Tang, the couple worshiped, and finally entered the cave. Seventh, the dazzling houses are mainly because ancient marriage is a marriage arranged by parents. Both men and women have no contact before marriage, and some have not even seen each other, let alone understand and familiar with themselves. Now it becomes a husband and wife, and it must be very strange. With such a process of troubled houses, it can change the indifferent atmosphere, so that the newcomers can reduce jerky as much as possible, and make the young couple enter a hot state as soon as possible. So so far, the folks have been circulating more and more joyful, not making troubles, the more troublesome and more newly married, and there is no size for three days of wedding.